A Father Daughter dance has an irrefutable generation gap between the recipients. If you play the kids’ music, most dads won’t dance and if you play the dad’s music, nobody dances! It is easy to see that if the DJ is going to help the dads have a good time or help the daughters share anything with dad, she/he is going to need more than just music to do it! The DJ needs to initiate plenty of structured activities that encourage dads and daughters to play together. But more and more dj’s just play music, and more and more dads just put up with a mediocre evening. After all, dad got a few slow dances with his daughter and he got her to thank him for allowing her to run around screaming with all her friends while he stood on the side. He didn’t know anyone so he kept to himself or simply nodded as other dads acknowledged that they all had the same problem.
How is that like your wedding? Does your wedding have a problem like that? Well, in a way, it is worse! At father-daughter dances, there are only two generations and only an average of 25 years age difference between the two. At a wedding, there is often three generations spanning from age 20 to 80. That is an age difference of 60 years!
But more and more dj’s just play music, and more and more dads guests just put up with a mediocre evening. Is that what you want at your wedding?
The answer is to celebrate what is important, and it is NOT music. Do we get together to celebrate music? Of course not, but the way people carry on about the music played at these things, you would think so.
The two things we are celebrating at both weddings and father-daughter dances are togetherness and family!
You need to work with your MC to include plenty of structured activities that encourage dads and daughters family members, friends, and guests of all ages to play together. Once you do that, you are focusing on what is really important. Now everyone starts to have fun! More people are dancing! But even the ones who aren’t dancing are having a great time!
